Abuse is not always physical, it can be metal or verbal abuse as well. This became clear to a young girl named Brittaney, who suffered through an emotionally abusive relationship for years.
Brittaney let her boyfriend tell her how to wear her hair and makeup; he even made rude remarks about her weight. Although his remarks upset her, she still could not find the courage to leave him until eventually, she was left for what he considered a “prettier” girl – Brittaney blamed herself. But recently, she realized that she wasn’t to blame and decided to share her revelation with the world.
The teenager posted a status on Facebook about her relationship, and it has since gone viral. She structures the post as somewhat of a letter to her former flame, and begins by saying that her ex-boyfriend used to tell her that she didn’t look good with long hair because he preferred girls with shorter hair. She also wrote that he told her she looked ridiculous when she dyed her hair red, so she would keep her hair long and blonde just for him.
His criticisms didn’t just stop with at her hair, though: Brittaney also said that he used to tell her that she wore too much makeup, so she would just wear none at all. He also told her that her tattoos and piercings looked dumb, and he tried to remove her belly button ring every time he noticed it in. She said that she eventually removed all of her piercings and decided not to get any more tattoos to please him.
Perhaps worst of all, Brittaney said that her ex-boyfriend used to point out her stretch marks and make rude remarks about her weight. She tried to make sure he didn’t see the stretch marks, and she started eating less for fear he would make her feel bad for gaining a few pounds.
In her post, she goes on to say that she did everything she could to be the girl that he wanted, but in the end, his criticisms caused her to lose all of her self confidence. When he decided to leave her for someone he thought was better, she initially blamed herself, but she says she has recently seen the light.
She realized that it wasn’t her fault he left her and that he was the one that wasn’t good enough for her. She says that she has learned that she needs to do things for herself rather than others.
Along with her post, she included recent photos of herself with bright red hair past her shoulders, which is something her ex-boyfriend would never have approved of. She also says that she now eats what she wants and doesn’t worry about her stretch marks.
Although she says it was hard for her to admit she had been so vulnerable because of one guy, she feels that it is important for others to hear her story and see how far she has come since the breakup.